The following are real exchanges between husband and wife dealing with sex addiction while the husband is in jail as part of our Consequences of Sex Addiction Series. Sex Addiction is real and we hope these letters inspire you to get help and/or make a change if you’re facing similar circumstances.
Birthdays are a big deal in our family. My daughter just celebrated one of her “milestone” birthdays and I wasn’t there to celebrate it with hers [sic] and the rest of the family. I am feeling a whole host of emotions at the moment, including sadness, anger, frustration, envy, joy and gratitude. My joy and gratitude stems from the pride I feel for my daughter and the joy in being blessed with such a wonderful child who is growing up to be a fabulous person.
My anger and resentments come from the fact that I am in prison when I should be with my family. It would be easy to stay angry and try to blame others for my situation, but I have no one to blame but myself. I let my addiction control my life and take me away from those things most important to me. I am envious that life goes on without me. That’s my ego talking! Truth is, I am glad my family is staying true to our traditions and celebrating. They should live their lives to the fullest. As for me, I have to make them my priority and remain positive and focused on doing the next right thing for myself and my family.
Happy birthday sweetie,