The following are real exchanges between husband and wife dealing with sex addiction while the husband is in jail as part of our Consequences of Sex Addiction Series. Sex Addiction is real and we hope these letters inspire you to get help and/or make a change if you’re facing similar circumstances.
My name is David and I am currently serving a five-year sentence in the Federal Bureau of Prisons. This blog is intended to share information and experiences, to help others avoid the same mistakes I’ve made and/or to help those preparing to serve time ordered by our justice system.
So, let me first start with a message to those individuals who are preparing to serve their sentence. Most, if not all, inmates feel the justice system was unjust, unfair and heavy handed in sentencing them to prison time. The best advice I can give you is “GET OVER IT!” Holding onto anger and resentments will only keep you in a negative place and distract you from taking care of the things that are really important in your life. Let the lawyers deal with the legal stuff. Help them when they need it, otherwise get on with your life.
So what is important? For me it was and is my family. In preparing I had to get my affairs in order. We put a plan together on how we will communicate; Having names, addresses, phone numbers and email addresses for those important to stay in contact with ready to be mailed in. I tried to be thoughtful about our financial resources. Could my family provide me some support or not? We put together a budget and talked about filing taxes and made a plan. Bottom line, I tried to be proactive about staying close to my family and doing all I could for them while inside. How did I know what to do for them? I ASKED! Communication will be your most important tool to stay connected with your family.