The following are real exchanges between husband and wife dealing with sex addiction while the husband is in jail as part of our Consequences of Sex Addiction Series. Sex Addiction is real and we hope these letters inspire you to get help and/or make a change if you’re facing similar circumstances.
Ever since I was a small boy I felt vulnerable. The first time I realized this was watching “The Wizard of Oz,” when the wicked witch appeared out of nowhere in a cloud of smoke, throwing fire balls down at Dorothy, the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and Toto too! I remember the famous line “I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!” It terrified me and made me feel vulnerable. I realized that there are forces in the world who are evil and want to hurt me. In many ways this shaped my life and who I became as a man. I put up walls around me to protect myself from all the evil, even to those I needed no protection from, but walls don’t differentiate.
As I have grown I realized that indeed we are vulnerable to the world around us but more to the choices we make. The thoughts in our heads. Even the analogy in “The Wizard of Oz,” the challenge of good vs. evil and finding your happiness is in showing gratitude for the things you have and demonstrating humility in your actions with others. “There’s no place like home.”
So now, as I serve my time in prison, I realize that life is full of challenges and yes vulnerabilities, but my greatest vulnerability is in the choices I make in my life. Good choices or bad choices. I need to take down the walls I built, brick by brick, and learn that my true strength is being able to share openly with those I love, make good choices that support my life’s goals an [sic] yes, accept the lesson from “The Wizard of Oz,” “there’s no place like home!”